I started realizing the trend recently. My little toddler would disappear, or be eerily quiet and I would have to go searching for her in the bundus (we say that to mean unknown places here in Kenya – didn’t know until today that it’s actually a South African name). So one day, she’s in the house and I find her smiling ear to ear holding a tomato sauce bottle – if you can’t guess what she was doing – she had just had a filling of a good red thick drink. All I knew earlier was that she was eating her meal. I was shocked to say the least but all I could do was smile at her discovery. Apparently tomato sauce was now a cool drink. Her reaction was what surprised me most. She hid the bottle from me when I asked what she was up to. Presumably, she knew her actions were wrong – she was fearful of being exposed and shame was what she felt and voiced inwardly.
I have been through the cycle myself countless times in my lifetime. Let’s call it the triplet syndrome. Shame-Fear-Exposure. This syndrome has upcoming kings and queens hiding in the bundus (middle of nowhere) doing who knows what. Let’s break it down further.