On the 26th of August on my personal Facebook page, I began walking through a series of #peelingthehypocritemask that shall culminate in a month’s time on September 26th 2017.

It is a journey of God’s grace working in my life. A journey of a work-in-progress; real progressive growth as a child of God and the King’s daughter. A journey of courageous living. I am who I am by God’s grace.

Today’s post is a continuation of these series being a word by word study of 1 John 4:18, which speaks about there being no fear in love. Granted, love is a humongous topic, but we’ll try to concentrate on this verse so that we can understand the truth of God’s word –  different from what the love of the world portrays.

We shall discuss it phrase by phrase:

1. There is NO FEAR in LOVE

Fear is the opposite of faith. In the Bible, ‘Do not fear’ appears so many times in the Bible, to mean that every day of the year we ought not to fear man but only fear God (that means to reverence Him). From our previous post, ‘Why are You Hiding?’ we discovered how fear came into the world. Adam and Eve ate the fruit, instantly knew they had sinned before God and hid from Him because they feared Him.

God is love. That is why love cannot carry fear. It is virtually impossible for both to co-exist.

Where fear is there is no love and where love is there is no fear.

In my past relationships, I was fearful – of rejection, of loneliness, of being ashamed, of being a disappointment. To say that I loved those guys was a lie. I was duping myself. Deceived. With all the fear I had, it wasn’t possible to love. Every action was motivated by fear and not true love.


Fear is a spirit. It is more than just something we see or feel.
If the spirit of fear does not come from God as 2 Timothy 1:7 says, where does it come from? It comes from the enemy of God, powers and principalities of darkness.
God in contrast gives us the spirit of power, love and self control/ discipline. Fear is destroyed, casted out by God Himself, by Love – because there is NO FEAR in LOVE. There is no other cure.

When in a relationship, whether courting or in marriage and you find yourself in fear of your partner, you better question the love you profess because there is no fear in true love.



In the parable of the talents, there were three servants, each entrusted with a portion of the master’s property according to their ability. We know each person is endowed differently and that’s why comparison is a deadly disease (we will discuss comparison in the next post, look out for that).

One he gave five talents of money, another two talents and another one talent. A talent was worth more than a thousand dollars (A million Kenyan shillings). Each was given no more or less than their ability. It’s how each of us has enough gifting, time and other resources according to our varying abilities. It could be writing, or speaking, or gift of helping or serving etc.

Both the one with five and two talents went an invested their money and earned more from it. The first servant brought back ten talents, the second one brought four talents. Both received this commendation from the master, ‘Well done good and faithful servant. You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!‘ So it wasn’t about how much each gained but that they both put it to work and gained something.

The third servant, knew the master as one who was a hard man, harvesting where he had not sown and gathering where he had not scattered seed. Simply he thought his master was dishonest. He didn’t trust him and didn’t value what was entrusted to him. There was ignorance in his part – ignorance of a lack of knowledge. He didn’t know his master well. Why else didn’t the other servants have a similar report of this master, yet they all served the same one?

Fear is a prison, it stops you on your tracks from accomplishing anything of value

How did he respond? Fear. He said, ‘I was afraid and went out and hid your talent in the ground. See, here is what belongs to you.‘ I am amazed by this third servant’s response. He saw only what the master gave him as belonging to the master hence he didn’t see any ownership in it. He didn’t see it the way the other servants did, as a master entrusting to him.

He may have compared what he had been given with the other servants and thought, the master was mean, ‘To give me one, and give the other ten and another five. He is mean.’ Hence his understanding was wrong.
This servant was called wicked and lazy. What he had, that one talent was taken and given to the one with ten talents. He was thrown in utter darkness where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth. This is the torment of fear. The punishment of fear. First you hide in the world and you reap it’s fruit in utter darkness.
Hosea 4:6 has a lot to say about rejecting knowledge. It is equal to ignoring God’s truth.


He who fears hasn’t been made perfect in love (repetition helps to get the point into our minds). He who fears does not know who God really is. He has no understanding and no experience whatsoever of true love.
Simply he who fears is tormented by the spirit of fear.
The Amplified version of this verse is so expressive of all we have shared.

1 John 4:18Amplified Bible (AMP)

18 There is no fear in love [dread does not exist]. But perfect (complete, full-grown) love drives out fear, because fear involves [the expectation of divine] punishment, so the one who is afraid [of God’s judgment] is not perfected in love [has not grown into a sufficient understanding of God’s love].